Anxiety and Fear of Talking
There is a lot of negativity in the world right now. A lot of anxiety, worry and fear. It's okay to feel this way and many do, some more than others. I want to help talk you through some techniques and tips on what can help you and make life easier.
We've all had or are experiencing some sort of anxiety right now. It can differ to extents. Feeling panicky, shaken even, going into hot sweats, fast heartbeat, trouble breathing the symptoms are endless.
It's not spoken about enough and I really want to help as many people as humanly possible deal with their anxiety of any level.
We live in a time at the moment, where some may find it difficult to get out of the house, even if it is for a walk, many have been there.
We are all on a personal growth journey and the majority of people find it really hard to get out of this intoxicating feeling. I for one have been there. This post is about helping you become better at dealing with these constant feelings.
I want to start by telling you, you are not alone. It's easy for us to feel like we are but I can tell you there are a lot more people who suffer from this than you think.
Anxiety comes in many forms, so it can be tricky to deal with. In this first little mini-series, I want to talk about is staying connected with people.
Staying Connected With People
The biggest and bravest thing you could do when suffering from anxiety is to talk about it. We build up fear in our heads and feel that if we speak about the problems we are having we are vulnerable and judged.
Let me tell you there is no problem feeling vulnerable. We all are at some point in our lives, whether that's for a job interview, public speaking, presenting, team calls, going out in a pandemic etc.
The thing is we have to be vulnerable and go through anxiety and failure to grow and expand and exert ourselves to feel empowered and strong and ambitious.
We can fight against our emotion and conquer our fears but one of the best ways is to start talking. It can be a friend, family member, a teacher, an acquaintance or a counsellor.
Remember there is no shame in speaking about what is worrying you and chances are the person you confide in probably is or has felt the same or at least some point in their life and that's okay.
The more you talk the more that's lifted from your mind. The stress evaporates, your body is calmer and more of a happy place for your mind.
It's not an easy journey but one of the first things to do is speak up, become the voice you need. I'm not going to lie, it can be freakin scary but you don't go anywhere if you stay stuck.
A problem shared is a problem halved.
Honestly, when you share what's worrying, what's robbing you of joy and laugher you will feel 10 times lighter, hell you may even shed some excess pounds that you've put on in the past few weeks or months.
It can literally be as easy as that. A lot of people do suffer from stress eating, but something as simple as talking can help that, and shift the hardship that's holding you back, keeping your potential and ultimate you at bay.
Like I've said it's going to be hard but people who feel more connected with others and the world report lower rates of anxiety and depression.
It can lead to higher self-esteem and confidence, being more empathetic and trusting and cooperative. It's good for the mind.
To solve any problem you have to have a healthy mindset. Get all the nitty-gritty out. All that doesn't serve you. Breath out that stale air, all the stress, anxiety and toxic energy.
Something I want to touch on is that speaking to others is great, but you need to be careful. Don't speak to people who aren't or are rarely positive.
This can be disastrous for you. Anxiety is sometimes contagious and we can all do without making the situation worse by being surrounded by negative anxiety driven people. It would be a vicious circle for you.
Here's a list of 4 things you can say to someone who suffers from anxiety and what not to say. This way you can form a conversation and not feel awkward:
1. 'I know what you mean. I had a panic about...
Instead say 'I'm always here for you' - don't force them to tell you what's wrong, instead allow them to come to you and be there for them.
2. 'Have you tried.......'
Instead, say 'What can I do to help you'? - It's much better than making them feel overwhelmed with stuff to try.
3. 'Are you okay?'
Instead, say 'Let's go for a walk or go somewhere quiet' - The hardest thing is people asking you all the time how you are. Giving them space and chance to tell you on their own terms or just that, comfort being there for them is hugely appreciated.
4. 'Why aren't you seeing a counsellor or therapist?'
Instead say, I can see you have been anxious lately and I am concerned'. - much better than making them feel like they are a problem or not trying their best.
Remember you are 100% not alone and you can always chat with someone, it doesn't need to be many people it can just be one person.
Alternatively, jot down all your emotions in a journal if you don't feel comfortable talking to anyone. This alone makes you feel so much lighter and happier. It shifts the chip on your shoulder.
Writing can be so therapeutic, especially if like me you are an introvert. It can lift your hard emotions within seconds. Do what makes you feel good.
My inbox is always open for anyone who needs it.
I hope this helps you or passes on helpful information and better understanding someone's situation if they have confided in you.
All the best,
T
xxxxx
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